Marriage: A Call to Battle Together

Marriage isn't the fairy tale ending we often imagine. It's not about finding your perfect match and living happily ever after. Instead, marriage is a call to adventure, a summons to spiritual warfare, and an invitation to fight alongside your spouse for something far greater than personal happiness.

What Does Real Marriage Look Like?

Real marriage looks like Robertson McGilkin, who at the height of his career as president of Columbia Bible College and Seminary, resigned to care for his wife Muriel who had Alzheimer's disease. For 13 years, he fed her, bathed her, calmed her fears, and held her hand through the terrifying fog of her illness.

His words shook the Christian world: "I'm not sacrificing my life for Muriel. It's an honor to care for her. She has cared for me for more than four decades. Now it's my turn."

McGilkin understood something profound: "Our marriage was a contest not of who could dominate, but who could love more."

This is what real marriage looks like - not convenience and comfort, but going to war with courage for eternal consequences.

Why Abraham and Sarah's Story Matters for Marriage

The story of Abraham and Sarah, spanning 4,000 years ago, reveals timeless truths about marriage and faith. Their journey wasn't smooth or easy - it was filled with failures, waiting, doubt, and ultimately, God's faithfulness.

Marriage Is a Call to Adventure with Jesus

When God called Abraham at age 75, He didn't promise an easy retirement. Instead, God said: "Leave your land, your relatives, and your father's house to the land that I will show you." This was a call to adventure, not comfort.

Similarly, marriage is God's call to adventure. He doesn't bring couples together for boredom or routine. There's a calling on every marriage - to love God with everything and to love others as yourself, teaching others to do the same through Jesus Christ.

Your Spouse May Fail, But the Marriage Must Not

Abraham's failures were spectacular. When famine struck, he lied about Sarah being his sister, essentially allowing Pharaoh to take her as a wife to save his own life. This was an extreme failure, yet God used even this for His purposes.

The lesson is clear: you're married to a sinner, and your spouse is married to a sinner. Failure will happen. But the failure of your spouse - or your own failure - doesn't have to mean the failure of your marriage. What your marriage was brought together for is bigger than your failures.

How Long Should You Wait for God's Promises?

Abraham and Sarah waited 25 years for God's promise of a son to be fulfilled. Twenty-five years of monthly disappointments. Every month was like a funeral for the promise.

At age 86, after 11 years of waiting, they tried to fulfill God's promise themselves through Sarah's servant Hagar. This created even more problems that we still see consequences of today.

The Battle of Unbelief

When God finally promised Isaac would be born when Abraham was 100 and Sarah was 90, both of them laughed. Abraham said, "Can a child be born to a 100-year-old man? Can Sarah, a 90-year-old woman, give birth?"

Sarah's response was even more colorful: "After I've become shriveled up and my Lord is old, will I have delight?"

Yet notice something beautiful in Sarah's words - even in her doubt, she called Abraham "my Lord," showing respect and submission despite years of his failures and their difficult journey.

Marriage will test your faith to the limit. You will have to battle unbelief, sometimes monthly, sometimes daily.

What Should You Celebrate in Marriage?

When Isaac was finally born, Abraham was 100 and Sarah was 90. After 25 years of waiting, they finally had their promised son. What did they do? They celebrated.

We need to celebrate the battle victories because the war is already won. Don't be afraid of joy. God is good. Take time to celebrate victories in your marriage because it will strengthen you for the next battle and bring glory to God.

What Does Marriage Require from You?

Ultimate Sacrifice

After waiting 25 years for Isaac, God tested Abraham by asking him to sacrifice his son. Abraham was willing, but God provided a ram instead. He named that place "The Lord Will Provide."

Marriage calls for ultimate sacrifice. There will be something you have to surrender - your pride, comfort, time, or something else. But God will provide what you need when you need it most.

The Right Battle Partner

Instead of asking "Where's Mr. Right?" or "Where's Mrs. Right?", ask "Who do I need to become?" What type of person attracts a Jesus-loving battle partner?

Look for someone you want to go to war with - someone you trust, someone who will never leave you behind, someone willing to sacrifice, someone who takes accountability for mistakes and shows grace for others' mistakes.

How Do You Fight Together Instead of Against Each Other?

We don't fight each other - we fight for each other. Like soldiers in foxholes during wartime, you don't fight for the cause alone; you fight for the person beside you to win the cause.

Veterans said the only place they felt truly safe was when someone they trusted was in the foxhole with them. That's marriage - finding someone you trust to be in the foxhole of life with you.

What Are You Fighting For?

You're fighting to:

Battle your calling to become one flesh and glorify God

Battle failure by asking for and giving forgiveness through God's grace

Battle unbelief by spurring your partner toward faith

Battle to celebrate victories with faith over fear

Battle surrender to God's plan, design, and authority

How Do You Know You've Found the Right Person?

The right spouse will bring you closer to Jesus. How they live and how they love you will make you know Him more, love Him more, and want to live for Him more. If they're not doing that, they're not the one - no matter how attractive they are.

If you're already married and not doing this for each other, start now. Get in God's word together. Pray together. Battle together. Fight together. Plan together. Glorify God together.

What Does the World Get Wrong About Marriage?

The world says good marriage should be easy - Jesus says be engaged in battle.

The world says it should be comfortable - Jesus says marriage has eternal consequences.

The world says it should be relaxing - Jesus calls you to relevance.

The world says make it manageable - God calls you to meaning.

The world says make it painless - God calls you to purpose beyond yourself.

Life Application

This week, shift your perspective on marriage from seeking comfort to embracing the adventure God has called you to. Whether you're single, married, or have been married, remember that as followers of Christ, we are all the bride and He is the groom.

If you're married, stop fighting against each other and start fighting for each other. Identify one area where you can better support your spouse in their walk with Jesus. If you're single, focus on becoming the type of person who would attract a Jesus-loving battle partner.

Questions for Reflection:

Am I approaching marriage (or my current marriage) as a call to adventure or a search for comfort?

How can I better fight for my spouse rather than against them this week?

In what ways does my relationship with my spouse (or my preparation for marriage) draw me closer to Jesus?

What do I need to surrender to God regarding my marriage or future marriage?

Remember, marriage isn't about finding someone to make you happy - it's about finding someone to go to war with for the kingdom of God. The battles are real, but the victory is already won through Christ.

Paul's letter to the Philippians, often called the "Letter of Joy," offers profound insights into experiencing genuine happiness that transcends our circumstances. Written from a Roman prison cell, this letter demonstrates how true joy comes not from our situations but from something far greater.

What Makes Philippians Special?

The church at Philippi holds a unique place in Christian history as the first church planted on European soil. Founded by Paul during his second missionary journey in the 50s A.D., it began with Lydia, a successful businesswoman who opened her home to believers. About ten years later, while imprisoned in Rome, Paul wrote this heartfelt letter expressing his deep love and gratitude for this church community.

Where Does Real Gratitude Come From?

Paul begins his letter with a powerful statement: "I give thanks to my God for every remembrance of you." Notice that Paul doesn't just feel grateful - he actively gives thanks to God. This reveals a crucial truth about gratitude.

It's Not What You're Thankful For, But Who You're Thankful To

Real, impactful gratitude isn't primarily about the things we appreciate. It's about directing our thankfulness to God as the ultimate source of all good things. When we understand that God is the one we should thank, it transforms our entire perspective on gratitude.

How Does Gratitude Create Joy?

Paul demonstrates that gratitude must be expressed to make a difference. He writes, "always praying with joy for all of you in my every prayer." Simply feeling thankful isn't enough - we must actively give thanks.

The Power of Expressed Gratitude

Just as we teach children to say "thank you," expressing gratitude is essential. When we regularly voice our thankfulness to God through prayer, it creates a cycle of joy in our lives. Scientific studies now confirm what Scripture has always taught: practicing gratitude literally changes our brains and increases our overall well-being.

What Is Christian Fellowship Really About?

Paul uses the Greek word "koinonia" to describe the Philippians' partnership in the gospel. This word means far more than casual friendship or church potlucks. It represents a mutually committed participation in something shared together - a shared life, mission, and cost.

Beyond Potlucks and Pleasantries

True Christian fellowship involves lives bound together for the gospel mission. It includes financial, emotional, missional, and spiritual partnership that transcends life's circumstances. This kind of unity is why the church will never be overtaken - it's built on shared suffering and shared rewards in Christ.

What Role Does Grace Play in Joy?

The words "thanksgiving," "joy," and "grace" in Paul's letter all come from the same Greek root. This isn't coincidental - you can't have one without the others. They form a positive feedback loop where each element strengthens the others.

Grace: The Foundation of Everything

Paul expresses confidence that "he who started a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." This points to the fundamental truth that our salvation begins and ends with God's grace, not our efforts.

Why Do Some Christians Lack Joy?

When Christians lack joy, it often indicates they either don't understand God's grace or haven't truly believed in it. Many believers trust grace for salvation but then try to earn God's favor through their own works in their daily Christian walk.

The Trap of Self-Justification

When we try to justify ourselves to God through our actions or attempt to manipulate Him through good works, we miss the point entirely. As Ephesians 2:8-9 reminds us, "For it is by grace you have been saved through faith... not by works, so that no one can boast."

How Can We Experience True Rest?

The reflection of grace is rest. True rest comes from understanding that we don't need to earn God's love or prove ourselves worthy. We can serve, sacrifice, and live from a place of grace rather than a place of earning and proving.

Working From Grace, Not For Grace

When we understand that God saved us to continue expressing His grace through us, it changes everything. We're not working to earn His favor - we're working because we already have it. This shift in perspective brings the joy and peace that Paul experienced even in prison.

Life Application

This week, challenge yourself to practice the grace-gratitude-joy cycle that Paul demonstrates. Start each day by thanking God for specific people in your life and His church. Instead of trying to earn God's favor through your actions, rest in the truth that His grace is already sufficient for you.

Ask yourself these questions:

Am I trying to earn God's love through my actions, or am I serving from a place of already being loved?

Do I regularly express gratitude to God for the people He's placed in my life?

When I lack joy, am I focusing on my circumstances or on God's unchanging grace?

How can I better understand and rest in the truth that God's grace is greater than all my sin?

Remember, God's grace is inexhaustible. He knew exactly who He was saving when He chose you, and He chose you anyway. That's the foundation for a life of true joy, genuine gratitude, and meaningful fellowship with other believers.

What Does the Bible Say About Being a Godly Wife?

The role of a wife in marriage is one of the most discussed and sometimes controversial topics in Christian circles. Yet when we look at what Scripture actually teaches, we find a beautiful picture of how marriage reflects the relationship between Christ and the church. Understanding biblical wifely submission isn't about diminishing women, but about creating a partnership that honors God and demonstrates His love to the world.

Why Does Marriage Matter to God?

Marriage serves a greater purpose than just personal happiness. The primary reason for Christian marriages is to share the gospel with the world. When people observe a Christian marriage, they should see what redemption, grace, forgiveness, and love look like in action. This applies whether you're married or single, because the language of marriage describes every believer's relationship with Jesus Christ as our bridegroom.

What Does Biblical Submission Really Mean?

The Greek word used for submission is "hupotasso," a military term meaning to arrange troops under the command of a leader. In non-military contexts, it describes a voluntary attitude of cooperation, assuming responsibility, and carrying burdens together.

Is Submission Conditional or Absolute?

While wives are called to submit to their husbands, this submission is not absolute. There are biblical disqualifying actions that release a wife from this calling:

Apostasy: When a husband rejects Christ and tries to lead his wife into sin

Abuse: Physical, sexual, or emotional abuse is never acceptable and breaks the marriage covenant

Abandonment: When a husband deserts his wife physically, financially, or emotionally

Adultery: Infidelity breaks the one-flesh covenant that God established

Scripture is clear that we must obey God rather than man, and no earthly authority should lead us away from God's commands.

What Are the Characteristics of a Jesus-Loving Wife?

1. Submissive to Her Husband

Even when married to unbelieving husbands, wives are called to demonstrate Christ through their submission. This isn't about being a doormat, but about showing the world what it looks like when the church submits to Christ. The goal is that unbelieving husbands "may be won over without a message by the way their wives live."

2. Humble and Modest

True beauty shouldn't consist primarily of outward appearance - elaborate hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or fine clothes. This doesn't mean wives can't look nice, but rather that external beauty shouldn't be the foundation of their identity. Glamour fades, but inner beauty grows more wonderful with age.

3. Gentle and Quiet Spirit

This characteristic is "very valuable in God's eyes." A gentle and quiet spirit means being respectful, especially in public settings. Publicly criticizing or disparaging your husband damages both your marriage and your witness. Words from wives carry tremendous weight with their husbands, and negative, cutting words can last a lifetime.

4. Honoring Your Husband

Like Sarah honored Abraham, wives should show respect and honor to their husbands. The primary way to honor anyone is through praise. This doesn't mean ignoring problems, but rather finding ways to speak hope, truth, love, and gratitude into your husband's life.

How Can Wives Influence Their Husbands Positively?

Faith Over Fear

Instead of operating from fear (which leads to control and manipulation), wives should operate from faith. This means having faith in Jesus first, and then showing faith in your husband. When you speak words of encouragement and belief into his life, it calls him to become a higher version of himself.

The Power of Praise

Nothing makes a man feel better than knowing he's made his wife genuinely proud. Even if your husband is doing many things wrong, find the one thing he's doing right and praise him for it. This isn't manipulation - it's ministry. It meets his deepest need to know he's adequate and capable.

Meeting His Greatest Need

A man's greatest fear is being found inadequate - not being enough to provide and protect. When wives speak words of faith, strength, and gratitude, saying things like "I believe in you" or "I know this is hard," it transforms him from the inside out.

How Does This Reflect Our Relationship with Christ?

The way a wife relates to her husband should mirror how the church relates to Jesus. We should praise our husbands like the church praises Jesus. This serves as a gauge for our spiritual lives - if our marital relationship is off, our relationship with the Lord may be off as well.

The beautiful truth is that Jesus is the perfect husband, making Him easy to submit to, honor, and praise. While earthly husbands don't deserve praise in the same way Jesus does, grace covers the gap. It's not about whether he deserves it, but about how we want to express Jesus to the world.

Life Application

This week, challenge yourself to speak life into your husband through praise and encouragement. Find one thing he's doing right and genuinely thank him for it. If you're single, apply these same principles to your relationship with Christ - examine how you speak about Him and to Him.

Ask yourself these questions:

Am I operating from faith or fear in my marriage?

Do my words build up or tear down my husband?

How does my marriage reflect Christ's love to the watching world?

If I'm critical of my husband, am I also critical in my relationship with Jesus?

Remember, when we follow God's design for marriage, life works best. His ways may challenge our natural inclinations, but they lead to the flourishing relationships He intended from the beginning.

What Does It Mean to Be a Godly Husband?

Marriage is often called a great adventure, and for good reason. When we look at what Scripture teaches about being a husband, we discover that it's both a divine calling and a challenging journey that requires us to reflect Christ's love for the church.

The Foundation: Understanding Biblical Headship

What Does "Head of the Wife" Really Mean?

Ephesians 5:23 tells us that "the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church." This doesn't mean domination or superiority. Instead, it means responsibility and accountability. As the leader of your marriage and family, you will be held accountable by God for how you lead.

When you're the leader of anything, whether it goes well or poorly, it's on you. This is the weight and privilege of biblical headship - not power over your wife, but responsibility for your relationship.

Leading with Understanding

First Peter 3:7 calls husbands to "treat your wife with understanding as you live together." This is a high calling that requires intentional effort. Understanding your wife isn't just nice - it's commanded. When we fail to live correctly as husbands, Scripture warns that our prayers will be hindered.

The LEADER Framework for Godly Husbands

L - Love Like Christ

How Did Jesus Love?

Jesus loved in three primary ways: with truth, with grace, and with sacrifice. As husbands, we're called to love our wives "as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her" (Ephesians 5:25).

Truth with Grace, Not Condemnation

Many men avoid difficult conversations because "she doesn't want to hear it." But what we're really saying is that we're too tired, lazy, or scared to deal with her emotional response. Leaders tell the truth, but always with grace.

Truth to condemn sounds like: "You're always emotional about everything. I can't say anything without you taking it the wrong way."

Truth with grace sounds like: "Babe, I can tell this is hard. That wasn't my intention. I want to understand where you're coming from, even if we don't agree yet."

Sacrifice Without Complaining

Real sacrifice doesn't complain or keep score. It doesn't announce itself or demand credit. Jesus sacrificed for us "while we were still sinners" - before we deserved it and even if we never acknowledged it.

E - Eagerness to Serve

Why Men Struggle with Initiative

Romans 12:11 calls us to "not lack diligence" and "be fervent in spirit." Yet many men come home wanting to do nothing. This isn't necessarily laziness - it's often rooted in a deep fear of not being enough.

As men, we're terrified of being inadequate, not strong enough, not capable enough. The world feels like it's constantly trying to destroy us emotionally and spiritually. When we get home, we want to take off our armor and rest.

But to our wives, this feels like disconnection and selfishness.

A - Awareness of Her Needs

Understanding the Difference

Women have developed heightened threat awareness over thousands of years. They notice things that men miss because their survival has depended on it. To a woman, awareness by her husband feels like love because an aware man feels like safety, security, and protection.

The Practical Application

Find out what that one thing is that your wife really wants done consistently. It might be dishes, laundry, or something else entirely. Ask her why it matters to her - there may be deep-seated hurt or fear attached to it. Wouldn't it be good if you were the one to help her heal from that?

The Communication Gap

Men operate simply: if we don't want help, we don't ask for it. If we want help, we ask. But women's brains don't work this way. They show love by noticing and helping without being asked. When they constantly offer suggestions for improvement, they're trying to love you - even though it feels like criticism to us.

D - Decisions with Clarity

Leading, Not Abdicating

You don't have to do everything, but you do have to initiate decisions. Making decisions is good for those you lead, and you should make decisions that are good for those you lead.

Passivity isn't loving - it's abandoning your calling. Here's how to lead with decisions:

Pray before deciding, both alone and with your spouse

Move with clarity, not emotion

Act for the good of others

E - Evangelism in Your Home

Be the Spiritual Leader

Ephesians 5:26-27 shows us that Christ cleanses the church "with the washing of water by the Word." As husbands, we're called to be the lead evangelists in our homes, leading our families to Christ, holiness, and mission.

Don't expect your wife to do your job. Don't expect the church to do your job. You should be:

The lead prayer in your home

The person who talks about Jesus the most

The one who engages your children about spiritual matters

The one they see in God's Word

Find Your Family Mission

Complete this sentence: "Our family exists to _______ for Jesus." Every family needs a mission, a purpose beyond just existing.

R - Repentance and Humility

Leading in Weakness

Being the leader doesn't mean never making mistakes. It means being the first to admit that you're not perfect. First John 1:9 reminds us that "if we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins."

It's not weak to ask for forgiveness from your wife. It's not weak to confess sin. It's what we're called to do. Be the leader in humility, not pride.

The Ultimate Example

Jesus: The Perfect Husband

Whether you're married or not, remember that Jesus is the perfect husband we're all called to submit to. He provides perfect protection, perfect provision, all grace, and all truth, all the time.

The language of marriage in Scripture exists to show us that Jesus is worth submitting to. When we understand how Christ loves His church, we understand how husbands should love their wives.

Life Application

This week, choose one area from the LEADER framework to focus on intentionally. Whether it's having a difficult conversation with grace, taking initiative on household tasks without being asked, or leading your family in prayer, take one concrete step toward being the husband God has called you to be.

Ask yourself these questions:

In what area am I most tempted to abdicate my leadership responsibility?

What is the "one thing" my wife consistently wishes I would notice and do?

How can I better reflect Christ's sacrificial love in my marriage this week?

What would it look like for me to be the spiritual leader my family needs?

Remember, the goal isn't to be the hero of your home - it's to point your family to the real Hero, Jesus Christ. When you stop trying to be perfect and start leading them to the One who is perfect, everything changes.

The Great Adventure: Understanding God's Design for Marriage

Marriage is often called an adventure, and for good reason. It's a journey filled with unexpected turns, challenges, and beautiful moments that shape us in ways we never imagined. But beyond the daily realities of sharing a thermostat setting or learning to love someone through their imperfections, marriage serves a much deeper purpose in God's design.

Why Did God Create Marriage?

When the Pharisees approached Jesus with questions about divorce, trying to trap Him in their theological debates, Jesus responded by taking them back to the very beginning. In Matthew 19:3-9, rather than getting caught up in their legal arguments, Jesus pointed to God's original design for marriage.

"Haven't you read?" Jesus replied, "that he who created them in the beginning made them male and female, and he also said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'?"

Marriage Reflects God's Image

From the beginning, God created mankind in His image - both male and female. This wasn't an accident or an afterthought. God intentionally created two distinct yet complementary beings who would come together to reflect His complete image to the world.

The Hebrew word "ezer" used to describe woman as man's helper doesn't suggest a secondary role. This same word is used throughout the Old Testament to describe God Himself as our helper. It means "helper in time of difficulty" - someone who provides strength, support, and assistance when it's needed most.

What Does "One Flesh" Really Mean?

When Jesus speaks of two becoming "one flesh," He's describing something profound. This isn't just about physical intimacy or even emotional connection. It's about two opposing but complementary pieces coming together to form something complete - like puzzle pieces that fill in each other's missing places.

The Divine Purpose Behind Unity

Jesus makes it clear that this unity isn't meant to be broken: "Therefore, what God has joined together, man must not separate." But why is this standard so high? Why does God care so much about the permanence of marriage?

Marriage as a Gospel Picture

Here's the profound truth that changes everything about how we view marriage: Human marriage is intended to be a direct reflection of the covenant God has with His people.

Throughout Scripture, God uses marriage language to describe His relationship with His people. We are called the bride of Christ. The ultimate consummation of God's kingdom is described as a wedding feast. This isn't just poetic language - it's intentional imagery that helps us understand both earthly marriage and our relationship with God.

The Standard This Sets

This understanding raises the bar significantly for how we approach marriage. If our marriages are meant to reflect Christ's love for the church, then we must ask ourselves: Are we loving our spouse in a way that honors the gospel?

For those considering marriage, the questions change from "Are they attractive?" or "Do they make me happy?" to "Is this the person I want to display the love of Christ with to the world?"

When Divorce Enters the Picture

The Pharisees tried to trap Jesus by referencing Moses' allowance for divorce. But Jesus clarified an important distinction: Moses didn't command divorce - he permitted it because of the hardness of people's hearts.

God's Heart Toward Divorce

Jesus revealed that divorce was never God's ideal. It was a concession to human sinfulness, not a divine endorsement. The reason the standard is so high is because Christ Himself will never divorce His bride, the church - even when she is unfaithful to Him through idolatry and worldly pursuits.

What About Those Who Aren't Married?

When Jesus' disciples heard His teaching on marriage, they responded, "If this is the case, it's better not to marry!" Rather than correcting them harshly, Jesus acknowledged that for some people, remaining unmarried is indeed better.

A Special Calling

Jesus explained that those who can accept the calling of singleness have a special place in God's kingdom. Without the demands of marriage and family, they can devote themselves more fully to kingdom work. This isn't a lesser calling - it's a special forces position in God's army.

The Bigger Picture

Whether married or single, all believers are part of Christ's bride, the church. The marriage language throughout Scripture is designed to help us understand the unfailing, unending covenant love of Jesus for His people.

Hope for Everyone

This means that marriage language in Scripture should bring hope to everyone - married or single. It speaks of a love that never fails, never gives up, and conquers even sin and death. Jesus is the perfect bridegroom who will never leave or forsake His bride.

Life Application

This week, whether you're married or single, consider how your life reflects the gospel message. If you're married, examine whether your relationship displays Christ's sacrificial love to the watching world. Are you loving your spouse the way Christ loves the church - with patience, forgiveness, and unwavering commitment?

If you're single, embrace your unique position to serve God's kingdom without the divided attention that marriage requires. Use this season to grow in your relationship with Christ, your ultimate bridegroom.

For those considering marriage, shift your focus from worldly questions to eternal ones. Seek a partner who will help you display the gospel through your relationship together.

Questions for Reflection:

How does my current relationship status allow me to reflect Christ's love to others?

If I'm married, what specific ways can I love my spouse more like Christ loves the church this week?

If I'm single, how can I use my freedom to serve God's kingdom more fully?

What does it mean to me personally that Christ will never divorce His bride, even when she's unfaithful?

In a world obsessed with appearances and outward performance, Jesus confronts one of the most dangerous spiritual traps we can fall into: believing that external actions can save us. Through a powerful encounter with religious leaders in Mark 6:53-7:23, we discover the radical difference between man-made traditions and heart transformation.

When Religious Leaders Miss the Point

Picture this scene: Jesus has just performed incredible miracles. He fed 5,000 people with five loaves and two fish, walked on water, and healed countless sick people who simply touched his robe. The crowds are amazed, lives are being transformed, and God's power is on full display.

Then the Pharisees and scribes arrive from Jerusalem. These were the religious elite - the ones everyone looked up to, the keepers of tradition, the interpreters of the law. And what are they concerned about? Hand washing.

The Tradition Trap

The Pharisees had developed elaborate traditions around ritual cleanliness. They wouldn't eat without washing their hands in specific ways, they washed cups and utensils obsessively, and they had countless rules about staying "clean" from contact with Gentiles or common people.

When they saw Jesus' disciples eating with unwashed hands, they were scandalized. "Why don't your disciples live according to the tradition of the elders?" they demanded.

Notice what they didn't ask about. They didn't question the miracles. They didn't inquire about the healings. They weren't interested in the transformed lives. They were fixated on hand washing.

Jesus' Scathing Response

Jesus didn't respond gently to this criticism. He went "full pastor mode" on them, quoting Isaiah 29:13: "These people honor me with their lips, but their heart is far from me. They worship me in vain, teaching as doctrines the commands of men."

What Does "Worship in Vain" Mean?

When Jesus said they worship "in vain," He meant their worship was useless - a complete waste of time. It accomplished nothing good. They could go through all the motions, say all the right words, and follow all the traditions, but if their hearts weren't involved, it was like talking to an idol.

This is not how any of us want to be described by Jesus. Yet it's exactly what happens when we elevate human traditions above God's word, when we trust in our own performance rather than His grace.

The Corban Example: When Tradition Hurts People

Jesus didn't just make accusations - He came with receipts. He gave a specific example of how their traditions actually violated God's law.

The Fifth Commandment says to honor your father and mother. But the religious leaders had created a loophole called "Corban." If someone designated their money as a gift to the temple, they could avoid using it to care for their elderly parents.

Think about how disgusting this is: elderly parents in need, adult children with the means to help, but religious leaders saying it's okay to ignore family obligations as long as you give to the temple instead.

Does This Still Happen Today?

Unfortunately, yes. Turn on religious television and you'll see modern versions of this - preachers demanding money while people neglect their real responsibilities. Any religious leader who prioritizes donations over caring for family is following the same corrupt pattern Jesus condemned.

What Really Makes Us Clean or Unclean?

Jesus made it crystal clear: "Nothing that goes into a person from the outside can defile him. But the things that come out of a person are what defile him."

It's Not About Food or Rituals

You can skip all the pork you want, wash your hands obsessively, follow every dietary law perfectly - but if your heart is hard and unrepentant, you're still unclean. External actions cannot save you.

Jesus listed what really defiles a person: "evil thoughts, sexual immoralities, thefts, murders, adulteries, greed, evil actions, deceit, promiscuity, stinginess, blasphemy, pride and foolishness. All of these evil things come from within and defile a person."

The Heart of the Matter

What About Our Modern Traditions?

We need to examine our own "traditions of men" that might be getting in the way of the gospel:

Sunday best clothing - Does God care if your shirt is tucked in?

Length of worship services - There's no biblical mandate for 60-minute services

Musical preferences - Organ vs. guitar doesn't determine salvation

Translation preferences - People were saved for 1,600 years before the King James Bible existed

Church attendance as a measure of holiness - Some people attend regularly but never change

None of these things are necessarily bad, but they become problems when we elevate them over God's word or use them as barriers to keep people from Christ.

The Danger of External Focus

When we focus on external performance, we risk:

Side-eyeing visitors who don't dress "appropriately"

Measuring God's presence by emotional responses

Gossiping about others' sins while hiding our own

Drawing boundaries Jesus never drew

Welcoming polished families while avoiding messy people

The Good News of Grace

Here's the beautiful truth: You do have hope. You have a blessed hope, an eternal hope. But it's not based on your performance - it's based entirely on God's grace.

It's All About God's Sovereignty

When you look in the mirror honestly, you should see all those things Jesus listed - the evil thoughts, the pride, the foolishness. That's you, and that's me. We're all stingy sometimes, we're all foolish regularly.

But when you have faith in Christ by God's grace, the Father looks at you and sees the righteousness of His Son. He sees you as clean because of what Jesus did, not because of what you've done.

You Didn't Save Yourself

Stop acting like you had a part in your salvation. You didn't choose God - He chose you. He drew you, He gave you faith, He paid the price. When we pray for others, we understand this sovereignty ("Lord, draw them to you"), but somehow we want credit for our own salvation.

The grace of God is your only hope. Live in that freedom. There's blessed freedom when you live in the power of God's grace rather than trying to justify yourself through performance.

Life Application

This week, examine your own heart honestly. Are you trusting in external actions or internal transformation? Are there "traditions of men" in your life that have become more important than loving God and loving people?

Remember: Yes, come to church. Yes, read your Bible. Yes, pray and serve and give. But do these things because you love God and want to love people, not because you think they make you righteous.

The motivation matters. If you're doing external things to earn God's favor or to look good to others, check your heart and change your motivation. You're already loved, already accepted, already clean - not because of what you do, but because of what Christ has done.

Questions for reflection:

What "traditions" or external behaviors have I been trusting in for my righteousness?

Am I more concerned with looking good to others than with having a genuine relationship with God?

How can I focus more on heart transformation and less on external performance this week?

Are there ways I've been drawing boundaries that Jesus never drew, keeping people from experiencing His love?

Life has a way of throwing us into storms when we least expect them. One moment we're celebrating God's provision, and the next we find ourselves rowing against fierce winds in the darkness. Mark chapter 6 gives us a powerful picture of what it means to trust God when He seems distant and our circumstances feel overwhelming.

The Setup: From Miracle to Storm

The story begins immediately after Jesus had fed 5,000 people with just five loaves and two fish. This wasn't just a nice miracle - it was a clear demonstration that Jesus is God, showing the same compassion and provision that God showed Israel in the wilderness. Just as God provided manna from heaven during the Exodus, Jesus provided bread for the hungry multitude.

But then something interesting happens. Instead of basking in the afterglow of this incredible miracle, Jesus immediately sends His disciples away in their boat while He dismisses the crowd and goes up on a mountain to pray.

Why Did Jesus Send Them Away?

There were several reasons Jesus sent the disciples ahead of Him:

They needed rest. The disciples had just returned from being sent out two by two, and they were exhausted. They needed time to recover and process what they had experienced.

The crowd wanted to make Jesus an earthly king. After the miracle, the people were ready to force Jesus into their political expectations. But Jesus knew His mission was far greater than simply overthrowing Roman rule - He came to establish an eternal kingdom.

It was time for another lesson. Jesus was about to teach His disciples something crucial about who He really is. Sometimes the most important lessons come not in the comfortable moments, but in the storms.

The Long Wait in the Storm

Here's where the story gets uncomfortable for those of us who want immediate relief from our troubles. Mark tells us that Jesus saw the disciples struggling in the evening - probably around 6 PM. But He didn't come to them until about 3 AM.

Think about that. Eight or nine hours of rowing against the wind. Eight or nine hours of exhaustion and fear. Eight or nine hours of wondering where Jesus was and why He wasn't helping.

When God's Timing Doesn't Match Ours

Sometimes, in order for us to learn and grow into who God wants us to be, we have to spend time in the middle of the storm. It may feel like Jesus doesn't know or doesn't care, but the truth is He's watching, He's praying, and He's waiting for exactly the right moment to reveal Himself.

If you're in that storm right now - if it feels like Jesus is far away and doesn't care about your struggle - don't believe those lies. Those thoughts come straight from Satan, whose only goal is to kill, steal, and destroy. Don't believe the weakness of your flesh that tells you Jesus has abandoned you when your spiritual muscles are burning from rowing against the wind.

The Unexpected Revelation

When Jesus finally comes to them, He's walking on water - and He intended to pass them by. This wasn't indifference; it was intentional. Mark is connecting this moment to Old Testament passages where God "passed by" Moses and Elijah to reveal His glory.

Jesus wasn't ignoring their need. He was positioning Himself to show them who He really is.

The Great "I AM" Moment

When the disciples see Jesus walking on water, they're terrified, thinking He's a ghost. But Jesus speaks words that should make us stop and pay attention: "Have courage. It is I. Don't be afraid."

In Greek, Jesus says "ego eimi" - the same phrase used in the Greek Old Testament for God's name "I AM." This is the eternal, personal name of God. Jesus isn't just saying "Hey, it's me, your friend." He's declaring His divine identity.

What Happens When God Gets in Your Boat?

The moment Jesus gets in the boat, the wind stops. Because when God commands peace, everything obeys. This is the second time in Mark's Gospel that Jesus has calmed a storm, answering the question the disciples asked earlier: "Who then is this? Even the wind and the sea obey Him."

Only God controls the seas. Only God can speak and have nature obey. Mark is making it crystal clear: Jesus is God.

The Problem of Hard Hearts

Despite witnessing this incredible display of divine power, Mark tells us the disciples "were completely astounded because they had not understood about the loaves. Instead, their hearts were hardened."

They missed the connection between the feeding of the 5,000 and Jesus walking on water. Both miracles were showing them the same truth: Jesus is Lord of all creation.

Are We Any Different?

It's easy to look at the disciples and think we would have understood better. But the truth is, we often have just as hard hearts as they did. We know the Sunday school answers and can sing the songs, but when life falls apart, do we really trust in the goodness of God?

When we don't have what we think we need, do we trust the Giver of all good gifts, or do we only want the gifts without the Giver? Too often, we treat God like someone we can pay to get what we want from Him - a little prayer, a little church attendance, a little Bible reading, and then we demand He give us what we want.

The Lord of All Creation

Jesus is Lord over the Sabbath, the purity laws, the bread we eat, and the waters we sail. He is Lord of all creation, and that includes you and me. We can either trust that truth or trust ourselves.

God is not impressed with our résumés. He's not controlled by our ignorant demands. He knows infinitely more than we do, and His ways are higher than our ways.

Life Application

This week, examine your heart honestly. When you're in the storm - when life isn't going according to your plan - do you trust God's goodness and timing, or do you demand He show up on your schedule?

Stop trying to control God with your good behavior. Instead, humble yourself before the great "I AM" and trust that He is working all things together for your good, even when you can't see it.

Remember His words: "Have courage. It is I. Don't be afraid." He is the ultimate provider and protector, the good shepherd who will guide you through every storm.

Questions for reflection:

In what areas of your life are you trying to control God rather than trust Him?

When you're struggling, do you focus more on getting relief or on getting to know God better through the difficulty?

How can you cultivate a heart that trusts God's timing even when it doesn't match your preferences?

What would change in your life if you truly believed Jesus is Lord of all, including your current circumstances?

The Miracle of Five Loaves and Two Fish: When Jesus Multiplies What We Give Him

Jesus and his disciples were exhausted. They had been ministering non-stop, to the point where they "did not even have time to eat." Jesus recognized their need for rest and suggested they go to a remote place by boat to recharge. But as they sailed away, the crowds spotted them and ran ahead, arriving at their destination before they did.

When Jesus stepped ashore and saw the massive crowd waiting, he could have been frustrated. Instead, "he had compassion on them because they were like sheep without a shepherd." Rather than sending them away, he began teaching them.

What Does Compassion Really Mean?

The Greek word for compassion (splanchnizomai) literally means "to be moved as to one's bowels" - to feel something in your gut. It's not just feeling sorry for someone; it's being moved to action because you care.

Jesus demonstrated this compassion by seeing the crowd as "sheep without a shepherd." This is a powerful image because sheep without a shepherd are completely helpless:

They wander off and get lost

They can't find pasture to graze on

They can't find water to drink

They can't protect themselves from predators

Despite having religious leaders around (Pharisees, Sadducees, priests), the people were spiritually lost. Jesus saw their true condition and responded with teaching - giving them the bread of life and living water through his words.

When Human Logic Meets Divine Provision

As evening approached, the disciples became concerned about the practical needs of the crowd. They approached Jesus with what seemed like a reasonable suggestion: "Send them away so they can go into the surrounding countryside and villages to buy themselves something to eat."

Jesus' response must have shocked them: "You give them something to eat."

The disciples' reaction was perfectly logical: "Should we go and buy 200 denarii worth of bread?" This was approximately eight months' wages - an impossible amount for their small group to spend.

Jesus simply asked, "How many loaves do you have? Go look."

This question reveals something profound about how God works. He doesn't ask what we don't have; he asks what we do have. He doesn't focus on our limitations but on what we're willing to give him.

The Miracle Unfolds

The disciples returned with a pitiful offering: five small rolls and two fish. For a crowd of at least 5,000 men (plus women and children), this was nothing.

Yet Jesus:

Had the people sit in organized groups of hundreds and fifties

Looked up to heaven and gave thanks for what they had

Broke the bread and fish and gave it to the disciples to distribute

Multiplied the food until everyone ate and was satisfied

Had the disciples collect twelve baskets of leftovers - one for each apostle

This miracle echoes God's provision of manna in the wilderness during the Exodus. Just as God provided bread from heaven for the Israelites, Jesus was now providing bread in a deserted place. The parallel is unmistakable - Jesus is revealing his divine identity.

What Can We Learn From This Miracle?

1. Jesus Can Do More With Our "Nothing" Than We Can Do With Our "Something"

When we give what little we have to Jesus in faith, he can multiply it beyond what we could ever accomplish on our own. This applies to our finances, time, talents, and resources.

Sometimes we look at what we have and think, "What difference could this possibly make?" But in God's hands, five rolls and two fish can feed thousands. Our small offerings, given in faith, can have an impact far beyond what we imagine.

2. Faith Acts Even When Humiliation Seems Likely

The disciples must have felt foolish organizing 5,000+ people into groups to receive food when all they had were five rolls and two fish. Yet they obeyed Jesus anyway.

Faith often requires us to step out and do things that don't make logical sense. It means being willing to look foolish in the eyes of others because we trust that God will come through.

3. Sheep Are Hopeless Without a Shepherd

Without Jesus as our shepherd, we're like those lost sheep - wandering, vulnerable, and unable to find what we truly need. The good news is that Jesus, the Good Shepherd, seeks after the one lost sheep, leaving the ninety-nine to find it.

Life Application

This week, consider what you're holding back from God. What resources, talents, or opportunities seem too small or insignificant to make a difference? Remember that Jesus can take your "five loaves and two fish" and do more with them than you could ever imagine.

Ask yourself:

What am I trying to accomplish in my own strength that I need to surrender to Jesus?

Where am I hesitating to step out in faith because I'm afraid of looking foolish?

In what areas of my life am I wandering like a sheep without a shepherd?

What small thing can I offer to God this week, trusting Him to multiply it?

The miracle of the loaves and fishes reminds us that our God is not limited by our limitations. When we place what little we have in His hands, He can do the impossible. The question is not whether God can provide, but whether we're willing to give Him what we have and trust Him with the results.

The Cost of Following Jesus: Lessons from John the Baptist's Martyrdom

In Mark 6:14-29, we find a powerful story that seems like an interruption in the narrative but serves a crucial purpose. This passage about John the Baptist's death is strategically placed between Jesus sending out His disciples and their return from ministry. This placement is intentional, revealing important truths about discipleship and the cost of following Jesus.

Why Does This Story Appear Here?

Mark's Gospel is known for its fast pace, using the Greek word "eutheos" (immediately) repeatedly. When something appears in Mark that seems out of place, it's there for a specific reason. This story about John the Baptist's death is sandwiched between accounts of the disciples' successful ministry for a purpose - to contrast worldly power with God's kingdom and to prepare disciples for the reality of persecution.

The Shocking News of John's Death

The passage begins with King Herod hearing about Jesus' ministry. People were speculating about Jesus' identity - some thought He was John the Baptist raised from the dead, others believed He was Elijah or another prophet.

For first-time readers of Mark, this would have been shocking. The last mention of John was in Mark 1:14, which simply stated he was arrested. Now suddenly we learn he was beheaded! This narrative technique creates a jarring effect that emphasizes the cost of speaking truth to power.

Who Was This Herod?

This wasn't Herod the Great (who ruled when Jesus was born) but his son, Herod Antipas, who was tetrarch of Galilee. As news of Jesus' miracles spread throughout the region, Herod became disturbed, believing Jesus might be John the Baptist returned from the dead.

Why John Was Killed: Speaking Truth to Power

The passage reveals that John was imprisoned because he confronted Herod about his unlawful marriage to Herodias, his brother's wife. This violated Jewish law (Leviticus 18:16, 20:21). Think about John's courage - he directly challenged the most powerful man in the region, knowing it could cost him his life.

Herodias held a grudge against John and wanted him dead. Interestingly, Herod himself respected John, recognizing him as "a righteous and holy man." When Herod heard John preach, he was "disturbed, yet heard him gladly." This reveals an important spiritual truth: when someone controlled by sin hears God's Word spoken with power, it disturbs their soul while simultaneously drawing them.

The Fatal Birthday Party

The opportunity for Herodias came during Herod's birthday celebration. Her daughter danced for Herod and his guests, pleasing them so much that Herod foolishly promised her anything she wanted - up to half his kingdom. After consulting her mother, the girl asked for John's head on a platter.

Though "deeply distressed," Herod granted the request to save face in front of his guests. He valued his reputation more than a righteous man's life. As one commentator notes, "Herod could have escaped the vow he made. He could have said, 'I promised you a gift, not a crime.'" Instead, he chose to sin against his better judgment.

The Contrast Between Two Kings

This story provides a stark contrast between two types of kings:

Herod - a worldly king whose power depends on others' approval, who cannot stand up to pressure, who chooses saving face over saving life

Jesus - the true King who establishes an eternal kingdom, not through worldly power but through sacrifice and service

Why This Story Matters for Disciples

By placing this story between the disciples' sending and return, Mark is teaching an essential lesson: faithful witness for Jesus will cost you in this world. The disciples had just experienced successful ministry with healings and miracles. They were riding high on spiritual success.

But Mark inserts this sobering reminder that following Jesus isn't always "rainbows and unicorns." Sometimes you'll experience the harvest, but often you'll face opposition. John told the truth, and the world killed him for it. This is the reality of discipleship.

Feeling Sorry vs. True Repentance

Herod felt "deeply distressed" about executing John, but feelings without action aren't repentance. This teaches us that merely feeling guilty about sin isn't enough. True repentance involves:

Confession - agreeing with God about your sin

Turning away from sin

Asking God to transform you

Taking concrete action

As the passage shows, Herod felt bad but still did the wrong thing. His emotions didn't lead to repentance.

Life Application

This passage challenges us with several important questions:

Which kingdom are you living for? Do you want eternal rest and reward, or do you want the world's approval? Scripture is clear that you can't worship both God and the world.

Will you speak truth even when it costs you? Are you willing to be like John, speaking truth to power even when it might lead to rejection or persecution?

Are you seeking more of God? No matter how much God blesses you or how deeply you experience Him, there's always more. He never runs out of good gifts for His children.

Is your repentance genuine or just emotional? Do you merely feel bad about sin, or are you taking concrete steps to turn from it?

The story of John's martyrdom reminds us that following Jesus comes with a cost. But it also assures us that the eternal kingdom is worth any temporary suffering we might endure. Like John, we're called to faithful witness, regardless of the consequences.

As you go through this week, ask yourself: Am I more concerned with pleasing God or pleasing people? Am I willing to speak truth even when it's unpopular? And when I fail, do I merely feel sorry, or do I truly repent?

The Danger of Compromise: Lessons from Solomon's Life

Solomon's story offers a powerful warning about how small compromises can lead to major spiritual failures. His journey from being the wisest king to falling into idolatry shows us that no one is immune to spiritual corruption when we begin to justify small acts of disobedience.

Solomon's Promising Beginning

When Solomon became king after his father David, he started with incredible promise. In 1 Kings 3, God appeared to Solomon in a dream and asked what he wanted. Instead of requesting wealth or power, Solomon asked for wisdom:

"Give your servant an obedient heart to judge your people and to discern between good and evil."

God was so pleased with this request that He gave Solomon not only unparalleled wisdom but also riches and honor "so that no man in any kingdom will be your equal during your entire life."

The Height of Solomon's Kingdom

Under Solomon's leadership, Israel reached its pinnacle. First Kings 10 describes a nation flourishing beyond imagination:

The people were "as numerous as the sand by the sea"

Solomon ruled over vast territories

Other nations paid tribute to him

The Queen of Sheba visited and declared his wisdom exceeded his reputation

Silver became "as common in Jerusalem as stone"

Solomon had it all—prosperity, peace, worldwide fame, political influence, business success, and artistic genius. By all worldly standards, he was the most successful king Israel ever had.

Where Did Solomon Go Wrong?

Despite this promising start, we see early warning signs. First Kings 3 mentions two concerning details before Solomon asks for wisdom:

"Solomon made an alliance with Pharaoh, King of Egypt, by marrying Pharaoh's daughter"

"Solomon loved the Lord... but he also sacrificed and burned incense on the high places"

These seemingly small compromises directly violated God's law in Deuteronomy 7, which explicitly warned against intermarrying with foreign nations "because they will turn your sons away from me to worship other gods."

How Do Small Compromises Lead to Major Failures?

Solomon likely justified these early compromises:

"I'm building God's temple, so this small convenience is acceptable"

"I'm still worshiping God, just in a different location"

"This political marriage will benefit Israel"

These rationalizations sound remarkably similar to how we justify our own compromises today.

The Devastating Results of Compromise

By 1 Kings 11, we see the full consequences of Solomon's compromises:

"King Solomon loved many foreign women... from the nations that the Lord had told the Israelites, 'Do not intermarry with them... because they will turn you away from me to their gods.' Solomon was deeply attached to these women and loved them."

Solomon accumulated 700 wives who were princesses and 300 concubines. These weren't random marriages—they were political alliances that seemed beneficial from a worldly perspective.

What Were the Spiritual Consequences?

The text tells us "when Solomon was old, his wives seduced him to follow other gods." His compromise led him to worship:

Ashtoreth (involving ritual prostitution)

Milcom/Molech (involving child sacrifice)

Chemosh (requiring blood offerings)

Solomon didn't just tolerate these practices—he actively built places of worship for these detestable gods. As Bible commentator Warren Wiersbe notes, "Solomon's compromise wasn't a sudden thing, for he gradually descended into his idolatry."

Why Does God Take Compromise So Seriously?

Because of Solomon's actions, God's anger burned against him. The consequences were severe—God tore ten of the twelve tribes away from Solomon's son Rehoboam. This division eventually led to:

The northern kingdom being destroyed by Assyria

The southern kingdom falling to Babylon

Yet even in judgment, God showed grace by preserving a remnant through which the Messiah would eventually come.

How Does This Apply to Men Today?

Solomon's failure as a spiritual leader offers important lessons for men today:

Are you leading spiritually? As the leader in your home, are you:

The lead prayer in your family?

The lead repenter when things go wrong?

The lead forgiver?

Setting the spiritual direction?

Where are you compromising? Be especially careful in these areas:

Economics (choosing profit over principle)

Entertainment (justifying content that dishonors God)

"Easy Street" (avoiding difficult decisions to maintain false peace)

What are you coveting? Watch for:

Envy (wanting what others have)

Excess (always wanting "just a little more")

Life Application

Solomon's life teaches us that compromise and covetousness inevitably lead to corruption. This week, examine your life for areas where you might be making small compromises that could lead to bigger spiritual failures:

Identify your high places: What conveniences or comforts are you unwilling to give up, even though they may be leading you away from God's best?

Examine your relationships: Are there influences in your life pulling you away from wholehearted devotion to God?

Check your leadership: If you're a man, are you actively leading your family toward God, or have you abdicated that responsibility to others?

Confront your covetousness: What are you desiring that isn't yours to have? Remember Solomon's conclusion in Ecclesiastes—that everything apart from God is "meaningless."

The good news is that the same God who didn't completely destroy Israel despite their failures is the same God who offers grace to us today. No matter how far you've compromised, repentance and restoration are possible through Jesus Christ.

Ask yourself: What small compromise am I justifying today that could lead me away from God tomorrow?

Be Strong, Be Courageous, Be a Man: Living Truth with Grace

What does it mean to be a man of God in today's world? For the past few weeks, we've been exploring the biblical call to "be strong, be courageous, be a man." This powerful directive appears repeatedly in Scripture, particularly when God speaks to Joshua.

What Does God Mean When He Calls Men to Be Courageous?

In Joshua 1, God repeatedly tells Joshua to "be strong and courageous." Interestingly, in the Greek Old Testament (the Septuagint), the word for "courageous" is the same word as "be manly." This doesn't mean women can't be courageous—often they are more courageous than men. Rather, it indicates that God has specifically called men to the responsibility of courage.

This same word appears in 1 Corinthians 16:13-14: "Be alert. Stand firm in the faith. Act like a man. Be strong. Your every action must be done with love." The call to "act like a man" is the same Greek word translated as "courageous" in Joshua.

How Can We Be Strong and Courageous While Acting in Love?

The key lies in understanding what biblical love truly is. In 1 Corinthians 13:6, Paul writes, "Love finds no joy in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth." This verse, often overlooked in the famous "love chapter," reveals something crucial about godly love: it's inseparable from truth.

In Scripture, truth and the gospel are synonymous. Jesus himself declared, "I am the way, the truth, and the life" (John 14:6). The basic truth of the Gospel is this:

God created mankind for fellowship with Him

Sin entered when man chose himself over God

God sent Jesus, fully God and fully man, to be our sacrifice

Jesus lived a perfect life and shed his blood to cover our sin

He bodily rose on the third day, defeating sin and death

Anyone who repents and trusts in Jesus receives forgiveness and eternal life

This truth unifies the church under one mission: to make disciples of all nations. But what does this truth do in the world?

What Happens When We Share God's Truth with the World?

In Matthew 10, Jesus sends out his apostles to share the gospel, warning them: "I'm sending you out as sheep among wolves." He tells them they'll face persecution, hatred, and even death for sharing the truth about Him.

Jesus instructs them not to fear those who can kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Instead, they should fear God, who has ultimate authority. He reminds them that God, who notices when even a sparrow falls, certainly cares about them.

Then Jesus makes this sobering statement: "Everyone who will acknowledge me before men, I will also acknowledge him before my Father in heaven. But whoever denies me before men, I will also deny him before my Father in heaven."

Does Sharing the Truth Mean Being Divisive?

Jesus continues with words that might surprise us: "Don't assume that I came to bring peace on the earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword." He warns that families will be divided because of Him, and declares that anyone who loves family members more than Him is not worthy of Him.

The context is crucial here. Jesus isn't saying we should be mean to our families. He's saying that if we're more concerned about keeping peace in our relationships than sharing the truth about Jesus, we're not doing it right. If we have the opportunity to share the truth with someone we love and don't because it's uncomfortable, we're not worthy of Him.

This is hard! It's often easier to share Jesus with strangers than with those closest to us. We fear rejection and judgment from those we love. But Jesus calls us to "lose our lives" for Him to find true life.

Why Is the Truth of Jesus So Divisive in Today's World?

The truth is divisive in the world but unifying in the church. We shouldn't be surprised when the world rejects the message of Jesus—He told us this would happen from the beginning.

What's equally concerning is how Christians sometimes respond to opposition—either by celebrating condemnation or by compromising truth. Neither approach honors Christ. We don't get to condemn the world, but we also don't get to compromise God's truth.

The battle isn't against flesh and blood. We shouldn't be surprised when the world acts like sinners—they are sinners, just as we are. Our only hope is Jesus and His righteousness, not our own.

What Is the Man's Responsibility in Sharing Truth?

The responsibility to share the gospel has been specifically given to men. We like when men get to be leaders when it means perks, but God will hold every man accountable for whether this took place in his life and family.

Men are called to be courageous and tell the truth with grace. Love is truth in grace—but love is not tolerance. For too long, men of God have been tolerating what is intolerable to God. It is not loving to affirm something untrue in someone's life; it's the opposite of love because it does harm.

When we don't share truth because "we don't want to upset anyone," what we're really saying is: "I'm a coward and I don't want to be uncomfortable." Our reluctance usually has nothing to do with the other person and everything to do with our own cowardice.

What's Happening in Our World Today?

What we're witnessing in our world is the wheat being separated from the tares. The "under the radar Christian" is becoming a thing of the past. Cultural Christianity that benefits people's lives without requiring commitment is fading away.

It's time for Christians, especially Christian men, to get bold and courageous in sharing the truth of Jesus, no matter the cost. If we truly believe in the bodily resurrection, what do we have to fear? As Paul said, "To live is Christ and to die is gain."

Life Application

John 1:14 reminds us that Jesus was "full of grace and truth." As followers of Christ, we must share truth with grace to the world, not being surprised when the world doesn't like it, but knowing it's worth it to bring glory to Christ and bring others to the kingdom.

This week, consider these questions:

Where have I been tolerating what God finds intolerable, either in my own life or in my silence toward others?

With whom has God given me an opportunity to share truth that I've avoided out of fear or discomfort?

How can I grow in sharing truth with both courage and grace, following Jesus' example?

The truth is that we're all sinners in need of a Savior, and Jesus wants to save us—but He won't force us. He offers us the choice of eternal life or eternal separation. He's ready to forgive us right now and forevermore. Will you turn to Him and confess that you're a sinner who needs a Savior, believing He is that Savior? That's faith.

BeKind,

Pastor Mo